LISTENING TO OTHERS

Sometimes we do not listen very well. Your little sister might be learning how to play soccer, for instance, and is eager to tell you about it. At first you think it’s boring – you already know how to play.

But then you pay attention and think about what your sister is saying. She wants to share her excitement with you and to gain your support. Maybe you can go outside with her and kick the ball back and forth. It’s enjoyable for both of you, and you can give her pointers on playing the game. By taking time to really listen, you are building her confidence and strengthening the bonds in your family.

Listening is just as important when someone is angry. Perhaps a friend is mad at you because of something you did. Instead of getting mad yourself, wait until both of you are calm, and then listen carefully to what your friend is saying.

Maybe you were wrong and can make things better by apologizing. Even if you were right, your friend might have misunderstood something you said or did. Or it could be that your friend actually was upset over something else and took it out on you. By listening rather than returning his anger, you are helping to improve the situation.